Learn to control your inner Hulk.
It’s natural to have the ups and downs of life get to us—it’s what makes us human. And what makes humans exceptional is our ability to maintain control over our emotions. The ability to not give in to our immediate impulses and stay true to the type of person we want to become is what builds our confidence, strength, and character. A positive attitude is simply a choice, made over and over again until it’s become a habit.
Here are five ways to stay “positively relentless about positivity”:
- Control Your Reaction
The golden rule to staying positive is to control how you react to a situation. Find whatever works for you (counting to 10, taking a deep breath, waiting to send a response) so you can have a moment to clear your mind and think clearly about your response.
- Learn From Difficult Situations
This may be a hard pill to swallow, but nearly every situation you’re in is a new way to grow. As Albert Einstein says, “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” When life is taking you down the wrong track, have the presence of mind to stop, turn around, and then take time after the moment has passed to evaluate what got you there (and what lessons can be learned to make it easier the next time). This is one of the most valuable skills you may ever learn to live a long life!
- Admit Your Mistakes
There is tremendous freedom in admitting your mistakes. You’ll find most people to be incredibly forgiving of mistakes. It’s when we try to cover it up that the problems come in. Own up to what you’ve done, identify what you’ve learned from it (see Step #2), and be amazed at the difference in how people treat you.
- Live In Your Own Bubble
There is a technique I learned years ago which is called a “Happy Bubble.” If that’s a little too sunny for you, rename it whatever you like (but find a way to start using it). When a negative situation approaches you, challenging your commitment to remain positive, mentally imagine yourself in a “Happy Bubble”. No one or nothing can penetrate this invisible barrier that surrounds you, and as negative things fly at you, they are deflected before they reach you. By doing this, you learn to listen for the actual message, not the way it is delivered. And when the message is negative, you learn to see the positive hidden within it (again, see Step #2!)
- Accentuate The Positive
In “The Jungle Book” Baloo the bear sings “You’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and latch on to the affirmative.” Insightful words for a cartoon character! In every situation you find yourself in, you can follow along: Emphasize what is positive or what can be learned, use your “Happy Bubble” to filter out the negative elements, and reaffirm your decision to be a positive person so you can stay in peace and control your reaction calmly.
We’re all human. Life will never be all roses, and it’s impossible to think that we can be positive all of the time. However, even marginal improvements over time will increase your satisfaction of life. When we are grateful in the place we are at, I find that “lucky breaks” tend to flow our way more frequently. So if you want greater prosperity, a healthier lifestyle, and more blessings to find you, become positively relentless about being positive!
Of course, there are plenty of ways to focus on being positive — what has been your favorite strategy for keeping a positive frame of mind, and what’s your secret for making it stick?